My attorney gave me a copy of our proposal to share with my daughter's therapist this week. I will listen to any of her advice as well. My attorney advises that I could in fact lose all of my pension, which would be 68,000. hmmm I am already walking with more nearly that much in debt for remodeling etc. on the home that I am signing away to the abuser. It is a lot to consider, but I am not too rattled over any of it. I am trying to make a rational decision from a calm viewing point. I have for too long made many many poor decisions from a place of fear, compliance, and just plain weariness of fighting. I am taking my time to decide this one.
My attorney asked me what my best friend thought, my brother thought etc...I told her the truth, I had not discussed it with them. I am not the same fractured individual I was a year ago. I trust myself more. I do not trust him at all, but I do believe God has my back and with that thought in mind I am in a prayerful state of mind, seeking to discern what he would have us do.
Is it going out in faith to sign their version and give the narcissist his superficial bit of saving face with the normal tone of the decree and that since he virtually has no true parental bond that he will most likely not bother with us and will simply move on to his next victim ( which being a small community I have heard he has made many unsuccessful attempts to do just that) or by yet again allowing such a pretense to go down, are we enabling continued harassment and disturbing that healthy environment for healing?
I am glad I have time to reflect carefully. I plan to take it.
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